Aug 22, 2006

Socially Inept

That would be me...the socially inept one. I will be the first to admit that I suck at social situations. I prefer to busy myself when in the midst of a large group of people. I hope to God that nobody asks me a question. And if, God forbid, I am caught sitting next to someone I've never met...well...can you say 'awkward'? That's me. If and when I open my mouth - it's not long before I find my foot in it.

I have found three common things happen to me whenever I do choose to try to look normal and join a conversation in progress. I either:
1. try to say something serious and everybody thinks I was trying to say something they laugh at me. Then that takes me back to deep rooted issues of...well, never mind, that's another blog.
2. try to say something funny and people just stare at me and we all sit there awkwardly as I begin counting ceiling tiles. Or...
3. try to make small talk - which I'm HORRIBLE at! I so don't do small talk. I can talk about major life issues, but I CANNOT talk about small, non-important things.

So, as you can tell...I'm a ball of joy to talk to when you first meet me.

Tonight, one such situation presented itself and I pulled a 'typical Cori'. We were at a party and were surrounded by many people we did not know. The one person I did know introduced me to her friend. She also gave me a morsel of information that I could possibly use in my attempt to 'small talk' with this new person. She told me that 'new person' used to live in Texas. Well, what do you know? What a small world, I did too! Well...we must obviously have a connection of some sort, right?

So, 'new person' told me that her husband actually used to be Texan. I found that an odd thing to say 'used to be' he has since changed allegiances. We have a saying in Texas, "Once a Texan, always a Texan" (as if there wasn't already enough Texas pride). Since her statement was odd, I chose to pursue it. This is where my social ineptitude comes out in full force.

I say, "What do you mean your husband 'was Texan'? He doesn't want to associate with Texas anymore now that he lives here? Her answer was short, "No, he died."

Sometimes I'm such an idiot. What kind of come back does one have when they have just tried to make a joke about someone's dead husband? What was I to say? I search the room looking for anyone to help me here. Everyone has conveniently looked away. I have to respond. The clock is ticking and everyone can hear it. How can I save face here?

I ended up finishing off by asking how he died. I then sat there for the next 15 minutes talking about death while at a birthday party.

I'm happy to report that I was successfully able to evade any further conversations the rest of the evening.

How glad I am that I don't have to stand up in a crowd and 'blog aloud'. I'm thankful for this medium for those of us who are so socially inept we end up making fools of ourselves.


Jennifer said...

Ok Cori! Though 'typical', it wasn't your fault...this time :) It would have been helpful for your 'friend' to have told you that 'new persons' husband had passed away. See, little tidbits of info come in very handy when attempting small talk. A piece of advice...sometimes it's better to just walk away :) Take it from me...I'm a really good 'walk away-er'!!!

Unknown said...

I agree with Jennifer. That bit of info would have been far more helpful like ...

"She's from Texas and her husband passed away."

I, on the other hand, am very good at small talk. Maybe because I talk too much.

Tiffany said...

Hey Cori,

I got your blog info from Misty Porter! Where and when did y'all move? I can't believe how big your sweet babies are!

I just started my blog this month. Check it out and see how big my babies are!

Hope to be able to keep up with y'all now!

BTW...I hate small talk as well!

Jennifer said...

Hey girl! I had a "Cori Moment" last weekend while chatting with my sister's bosses. I inadvertently insulted them...nice, huh?!? I totally didn't mean to, and didn't realize it at the time. It was only after dad's wife told me that I'd insulted them that I felt about 2 inches tall. After that, I started thinking about all of the small talk of the evening and realized that I should have just kept my mouth shut and sat in the corner for the evening!!!

Unknown said...

Our worst critics are ourselves.

I'd bet that your awkward situations are more a case of you being hard on yourself.

If you want to talk about someone putting their foot in their mouth, you should ask my wife about me. I was born with very little social reservation, and that can lead to some pretty awkward times. . . at least for my wife. I'm usually to inept to know I've embarrassed myself.

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